This past Saturday, my wonderful friend and her husband invited me and my other wonderful friend over for what she called “Sexy Saturday”. This is something that her and her husband have been doing for a while, and I think it’s fantastic! Here’s a little background. My friends are part time nudists, which contrary to what people think there is nothing sexual about being a nudist. It’s all about being comfortable in your own skin, which most people aren’t. Being in a self accepting environment rubs off on you, causing you to be loving and accepting of yourself, for no one is perfect and we all have our good points and flaws. When we are around others that are comfortable in their own skin, and accept us as we are, it’s very healing.
So now that you know where I got the inspiration for my blog today, let me begin. My girlfriend is a nifty soul, and we always encourage each other to do new things that express who we are and to discover our true self. So of course when she gave me the invite I was all over that! And of course bring some sexy shoes…no asking me twice!
The intent behind a sexy Saturday is to celebrate beauty, inside and out, by accepting yourself and others as you are. As for the shoes, those are just an accessory to enhance our celebration of our inner goddess, and of course she is always sexy and of course has hot shoes. lol! For me right now that’s a biggy, since I put on some extra weight last winter due to some health issues. For the first time in years I was not feeling comfortable with “taking it off” especially in front of others who actually looked good with nothing on. Ick! I brought some extra hot shoes hoping they would distract everyone from my new found muffin top.
Our society focuses so much on outer beauty, and fits it into such a tight mold, that the majority of people on this planet measured to comercial media standards would probably be considered ugly. This type of conditioning has such a negative impact on our self worth. When we read magazines, watch TV, and feed into the mass consciousness of “lack” of beauty, we create a negative mental image of ourselves and others that we pass on to those around us, including our children. We repeat thoughts in our head like “I’m too fat”, “I need to lose wieght”, “My boobs are too small” or “No one will ever date me looking like this”. This type of thinking is a crazy negative trap. The thoughts that we play in our head, along with all the other things we think about, resignate at a certain energy vibration. As we play those negative self image tapes, we create what is called at thought form. This cloud of energy is what we carry around with us all the time, part of our aura. Not only can others pick up on this but it affects others around us. It also draws to us more of the same…like a magnet. the thought pattern and vibration we radiate, we attract back to us. Basic law of the universe.
Do you ever wonder why you are always in a state of trying to lose weight, or you are constantly meeting people on the dating scene that don’t find you attractive, or constantly broke? Those “I need to lose weight” thoughts draw more of that to you. You constantly are trying to lose weight and can’t seem to get it off no matter what diet you follow. The “I’m not good looking enough” tape plays that way also. We repeat patterns of rejection in our life that constanly repeats itself, reinforcing our negative belief system, which turns into a constant depressing cycle.
One valuable thing that my nifty girlfriend taught me is to play a game with my thoughts. As soon as we hear the “I look fat” tape playing, we turn it off and replace it with the “I’m beautiful” tape. At first it seems goofy, tiring, and takes a lot of effort, and offten feels uncomfortable, but the more you practice flipping your thoughts around, the easier it gets. Turning it into a game to play with yourself makes it a little easier also.
You will find that as you talk to yourself in a positive manner, your body will follow. You will begin to chose better foods, your body will start to like to excersisie, and you will actually begin to be happy and accept yourself where you are at. When we love ourselfves right now at this moment, it brings more of that to us, thus creating a positive cycle, and conquoring the negative one.
One thing that works for me is visualization. Our minds are very powerful, and we can alway heal and reprogram our aquired thought pattern, no matter what created it, from childhood trauma or abuse, to present day dramas that scar our perception of things. When we add visualization to our affirmations, we give our brain something to grasp on to, since it processes things in a symbolic way. Pick symbols that are meaningful to you but simple. For instance love can be a heart, money a dollar sign, you get it. Visualize ourselves the way you want to be when you reach our goal. Be realistic, but don’t cut yourself short. Always picture yourself as the best person you can posibly want to be…nothing is too crazy, in fact the more elaborate the better.
Here is an example of how I use this tequnique. I like nature and I like to walk. When I go walking for excersise, I always do lots of positive talk and visualization. So this is my inner dialogue, or a sample lets say, it depends on what I am trying to manifest in my lifeat the time.
“I am a beautiful, healthy woman”
“My body metabolizes my food perfect to my body”
“I am a loving person, and atract those that love me”
“I am the perfect weight for my body frame”
“People find me attractive and charismatic”
Well I think you get it. Some might think that type of thinking is concieted or ego orientated. In society we are taught a faulse humility, which in turn causes us to play down and diminish the things we should be proud of and share with others. This is a tequnique we do for ourselves, and is not used to make us feel better than others, or as an aid to compare or put others down. To cultivate a new sence of self, we need to start inside. Only then will it radiate out for the world to see and benifit from. What we think, we project on others. When we practice self evolution tequniques like this we become our best self, and by example we give others permission to do the same.
So do you brave enough to have your own sexy saturday? Remember, fake it till you make it, or in simpler words…what you think is what you will become. So put on those stilletos, and be that sexy, confident woman you already are. It’s all about love and acceptance of yourself and others.